50 Tips for College Students

I did the “extended tour” of college. From about 1991-2002. I did get 4 degrees, so at least I have an excuse. :) I’ve also been an adjunct professor, so I’ve also been at the other side of the classroom.

1) The Freshman Fifteen does exist. So does the Freshman Twenty. Watch how many starches and processed foods you are eating.

2) Pizza – the ubiquitous college snack. See #1.

3) If it’s either take out a loan or quit school, take out a loan.

4) If you can live harmoniously with someone in a 20×20 ft. space, you can do anything.

5) Flip-flops: Wear them in the dorm shower. Always.

6) Always attend the *real* class, and use the Internet one for review.

7) If you are not a morning person, don’t schedule classes for 7am. You will not go.

8) Get involved on campus. All work and no *productive* socializing is boring.

9) Too much socializing = bad grades. Everything in moderation.

10) If you are feeling overwhelmed, are having problems sleeping, or have gone through a breakup, visit your college’s counseling center. If you are feeling suicidal at any point, call your college’s crisis center number or call 911 immediately.

11) There are a lot of free activities on campus. Take advantage of them.

12) Many colleges have free tutoring centers on campus. Take advantage of them.

13) Sit near the front of class.

14) Attend the whole class. Even if you feel like you will just die if you sit there any longer. Even if you feel your brain start to ooze out the side of your ear. Because we (professors) sometimes give really important info at the end of class.

15) Recopy your notes after class. Or if you’ve typed them (which is recommended), do a quick read-through after class.

16) Remember that although you are 18, your college may have the right to contact your parents if you are caught drinking underage.

17) Don’t do anything stupid (read: illegal). It will go down on your permanent record. Seriously. At every college you apply to after this one.

18) Register for classes as early as possible. Early bird catches the worm and all that.

19) See how your first semester goes before you consider getting a job. See how heavy your course load is first.

20) Find a bank that also has branches in your hometown. Get your account connected to your parents’ account so they can transfer money to you.

21) Use direct deposit and automatic withdrawal for paychecks/loanchecks/ check checks. Less chance of you losing it.

22) Use virus protection and firewalls on your laptop.

23) The student bookstore (online and in real life) can have great student discounts on hardware/software.

24) Reconsider bringing a car to campus your first semester. It can be a pain to park.

25) Pack the clothes you need for college, and then take half of that amount.

26) The more underwear you have, the less you have to do laundry.

27) If you are doing laundry on campus or at a laundromat, stay with your clothes. Otherwise they may walk off while you are gone.

28) I can’t emphasize this enough: INTRODUCE YOURSELF TO YOUR PROFESSORS AND GO TO THEIR OFFICE HOURS. This is so important, I’ll tell it to you again: INTRODUCE YOURSELF TO YOUR PROFESSORS AND GO TO THEIR OFFICE HOURS. We’re nice people. Seriously. And we really like it when someone is interested in our classes.

29) Use the college’s career resource center – not just when you are going to graduate, but when you are figuring out what you want to do with your life. It’s a free service. Use the free services.

30) For the love of God, please, please do not leave candles burning in your dorm room or apartment. Or those incense burning thingies. Bad things happen when those are left on.

31) If you have a tendency to be messy, your roommate may be compulsively neat. The general rule is that the messier you are, the more neat your roommate will be. Try to pull it together. Especially regarding food. Always throw out leftover food. That’s just gross, messy or not. Learning how to adapt to someone else’s living style is a wonderful learning experience. Really. And if you complained about having to share a room with your siblings while you were growing up, when you get to college you learn that you are actually ahead of the curve. :)

32) Stay on campus on weekends. If you go home every weekend because you are homesick or have a girlfriend/boyfriend back home, you will be missing out on a lot of the college experience.

33) Get your flu shots. Yearly.

34) Use condoms. Every time.

35) Long-distance relationships are a challenge to keep up when you are away at school.

36) If you get that “ick” feeling that you shouldn’t be doing something or shouldn’t be somewhere, stop doing it and get out of there.

37) You may feel like your parents are hovering too much. Look at it this way: they’ve been taking care of you since you were a baby. That doesn’t just stop. Cut them some slack. The more independent and wise decisions you make on your own, the more they will have confidence in your abilities as an adult.

38) Just because you and your roommate were friends back home doesn’t mean you will be compatible roommates. You find out new things about people when you are sharing a small space. But you can work it out. Even if you and your roommate are total strangers and are completely different – you may become great friends.

39) If your roommate is doing something that bothers you, ask yourself the following three questions: 1) Am I being reasonable in being bothered by this? 2) What’s the best way to talk to my roommate about this? 3) What are some solutions to this issue? If all else fails and the issue is very important to you and you’ve talked to your roommate to no avail, talk to your Resident Assistant.

40) Practice safety. Don’t walk home alone in the dark. Walk with someone. Many campuses have services where you can call and someone will walk back to your dorm with you.

41) Just because you *can* do something doesn’t mean you should.

42) Use flashcards to quiz yourself when studying. And get someone else to quiz you with them. If you always quiz yourself with your own flashcards, you may skip over some that you don’t know the answer to.

43) You may not know what you want to do for a major. It’s okay. There are people much older than you that still aren’t sure what they want to do with their lives. That’s okay. See your academic adviser for help. Pay attention to which classes you really look forward to – that can be a clue as to what you might want to major in.

44) If you have a dining card/pass – do not treat all your friends to lunch and dinner. That is real money. Real money that you will be asking your parents for when it runs out.

45) Study groups can be helpful – but keep it to between 3 and 5 members (including you). More than that, and it turns into a social event.

46) If you have ADHD or a learning disability, apply for accommodations as soon as possible – even right after you find out you’ve been accepted to school.

47) Sleep. Get it. Get enough. You may be laughing at this, being a college student and all…but you need to get enough sleep.

48) Wash your hands. Often. Living in the dorms is a communal living experience. Germs love communal living.

49) Keep in touch with your friends from back home, but be open to meeting people of all different cultures and interests.

50) Enjoy your college experience – it’s one most rewarding experiences of your life, academically and socially.

Dr. Sarkis is the author of Making the Grade with ADD: A Student’s Guide to Succeeding in College with Attention Deficit Disorder.

Free Webinar tonight (8/16) on Money and ADD

Tonight – my free webinar on “ADD & Your Money” 8/16 8:30pm at ADDiva http://www.addiva.net/events/

Perfectionism can be Hazardous to Your Health (Sometimes)

Perfectionism has been linked to poor physical health and an increased rate of death, according to Dr. Pem Fry.

The study followed 450 adults aged 65 and older for 6.5 years. The participants completed an initial questionnaire to assess their level of perfectionism and other personality traits. Participants with high perfectionism scores had a 51% increased risk of death compared to those with low scores.

However, when the researchers followed 385 patients with type 2 diabetes for the same amount of time, participants with high perfectionism scores had a 26% lower risk of death compared to those with low scores.

So does perfectionism take a toll more often when it is not “needed”? In the case of diabetes, I can see how perfectionism can help increase adherence to medical treatment. And not all “perfectionism” is bad – I’d rather have a dentist that is a perfectionist than one that is not!

The full article can be found here: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/38170039/ns/health-mental_health/

Having ADHD is like being an Ernie in a world of Berts.

I can so relate to Ernie. Here are some of his finer moments of living with non-ADHD Bert.

1. Ernie and the Telephone

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XpxAChE46zU

“Ernie, don’t throw that on the floor!”
“Oh, oh I’m sorry Bert. I’ll pick it up later. I couldn’t wait…”

2. Listen for the Knock at the Door

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RCXFBThMEMI

“Hey Bert, was that you knocking on the door?”
…”YES IT WAS ME KNOCKING AT THE DOOR!! I’VE BEEN STANDING OUT THERE A LONG TIME!!”

3. Ernie Discovers the Speed Settings on the Fan

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EVsfbukFJWA

“Hey, Ernie, I’m trying to write some letters.”
“Well, I think if I turn this fan on all the way, it will get REALLY cool!”
(Papers blow everywhere.)
“ERNIE, THE FAN!! TURN IT OFF!! THE FAN!! TURN IT OFF!!…WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS?? I’M SITTING HERE QUIETLY TRYING TO WRITE A LETTER!!”

4. Ernie “Organizes” his Toys.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iKnhTUBt5xI

Bert: “You’re actually cleaning up? Be still my beating heart.”

5. “Let’s Do Something Exciting!!”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Ls2vNfQxyc

Ernie: “Let’s do something exciting! Like a birthday party or a circus!! Wouldn’t you like to do something fantastic??”
(Bert gets out his meticulous collection of bottlecaps. Ernie is bored to tears.)

6. Counting Sheep. And Fire Engines. Because Sheep are Boring.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t7IHPJ0k9Bg

“I got bored counting sheep, so I decided I’d count something more exciting. So I decided to count fire engines.”

ADHD children function better when outdoors

Children with ADHD function better when spending time in outdoor settings, according to a study conducted at the University of Illinois-Champaign Landscape and Human Health

According to the website:

In an initial, Midwestern-based survey, parents of children with AD/HD were more likely to nominate activities that typically occur in green outdoor settings as being best for their child’s symptoms and activities that typically occur in indoor or non-green outdoor settings as worst for symptoms.

Read about the study here: http://lhhl.illinois.edu/adhd.htm The website also gives information on related articles by the authors, and provides a link to their original study.

This study reminds me of a chapter in Lara Honos-Webb’s book, The Gift of Adult ADD where she writes that a positive feature of ADHD is the tendency to feel a connection to nature and other living things.

Thanks to Alicia for the article!

Is ADHD Overmedicated?

The Edge Foundation, which specializes in coaching services for ADHD students, provides their opinion on medication treatment of ADHD. The blog post includes information on Judith Warner’s new book, We’ve Got Issues: Children and Parents in the Age of Medication.

http://www.edgefoundation.org/blog/2010/03/11/is-adhd-overmedicated/

Online guides for ADHD medication info

I’ve found two guides online for learning more about medication for ADHD.

The first is the “ADHD Parents’ Medication Guide” (I added the apostrophe to the title…I think it needs one.) It was created by the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry (AACAP) and the American Psychiatric Assocation (APA). It can be found here:

http://www.psych.org/Share/Parents-Med-Guide/Medication-Guides/ParentsMedGuide-ADHD-English.aspx

Next is “Medication Management for Adults with ADHD”, published by the National Resource Center on ADHD, part of Children and Adults with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. The guide can be found here:

http://www.addresources.org/article_adhd_medication_chadd.php

If there are other medication information sites that you have found useful. please pass them on to me, and I will review and post them on my blog.

Thanks!

What it is like to have ADHD/ADD

Frequently I get asked what it is like to have ADHD/ADD, or how I have coped with having it.
I was diagnosed at 23, and have been taking Adderall since then.

First, because of the misconceptions out there about medication for ADHD, I will address how medication has helped me. First, I have the same personality on or off medication. I am an optimist, I like talking with people, I am a hard worker – all of that is the same. What the medication does is give me those few seconds to help me retain a thought in my head instead of interrupting because the thought might go away; I am more aware of my surroundings when driving; I can read through something once and know what it says instead of reading it over and over again. I now have the extra seconds to determine if a decision is really in my best interest. I can actually listen and comprehend to an entire lecture or a long conversation. My anxiety level has gone down because now I know I can reach my potential – I don’t stay awake nights wondering how I’m going to get a bunch of reading assignments done because I can’t focus.

I am a firm believer in the genetics of ADHD. Luckily, my family has excellent geneological/historical records, and impulsive behavior/ADHD symptoms in my family can be traced back as far as the 1600s. One of my ancestors was extradited from Massachusetts to London, where he was imprisoned in the Tower of London for his impulsive behaviors. His intentions were good, but he probably could have fine-tuned his way of delivering the message. Let’s just say Paul Revere did the same thing a few years later in a more organized fashion! Interestingly, accounts from people in my ancestor’s town said that although they knew he had some impulsivity issues, they thought he was a great guy who was very helpful to others in the community, and they wanted him released back to the U.S. as soon as possible.

Back to my history…..I was naturally disorganized. Sure, you could show me how to organize something, but it didn’t stay that way. In school, I had to work 5 times as hard as everyone else, but only got half the amount of work done. I was hyperactive as a child – and it turns into “inner restlessness” now that I’m older. People with ADHD will know what I mean by “inner restlessness”. My report cards said things like “Does not work to potential”, “Disorganized”, “Messy handwriting”. In elementary school, my 2nd grade teacher pointed out my messy desk to everyone in class. I still can clearly recall my feelings of embarrassment and shame – I’m sure other people with ADHD can relate.

In college, I couldn’t figure out how my friends could study for 3 hours at a time while I wandered through the rows of books in the library. I always felt like I was “out of sync” with other people. There was something different about how I functioned in the world, but I couldn’t put my finger on it.

Here is one of my favorite analogies of having ADHD. Having ADHD is like trying to climb to the top of a mountain with a backpack full of rocks. You are ready to make the climb, but a little anxious because you’ve been told that you just aren’t cut out for mountain climbing, that maybe you shouldn’t even bother. But you know you can do it. And then you realize there are people that are just zipping up to the top of that mountain ahead of you. You tell yourself, “But I did all my prep work! I am smart! So why can’t I move as fast as everyone else?” Then you find ways to get some of those rocks out of your backpack. Medication takes out some of the rocks, learning coping mechanisms takes out some of the rocks. You still have some rocks left in the backpack, but you find you can scale that mountain much easier now. You aren’t giving up, you aren’t having to stop for hours to convince yourself into getting moving again. And then you make it to the top of the mountain.

How do I manage things now? Medication has helped a great deal. I also went to counseling for a while, which was helpful. I hired an assistant to help me stay organized. I have used trial and error to find a method of organizing and living that works for me. Luckily, I have a career that I love, which has also helped me focus – actually hyperfocus, which is another sign of ADHD. I can sit at the laptop and write for 8 hours straight. That’s the thing about ADHD – when you love to do something, you get completely engrossed in it – to the exception of everything else.

So life has always been good, and getting diagnosed and treated for ADHD (and helping others that have it) has made it even more enjoyable. It’s important to remember that even if you do have ADHD, there is treatment available.

Gold medalist Alex Bilodeau and his brother

Alex Bilodeau earned the first Canadian gold medal in a home Olympic games. Alex’s older brother, Frederic, has cerebral palsy. Alex played hockey when he was young, but switched to skiing so Frederic could also participate.

From the article:

“My brother is my inspiration,” Alex said that night on TV, tears welling. “He taught me so many things in my life.”

A questioner made the point that Frederic is imperfect physically while Alex comes close to physical perfection.

Alex let out a long, hard laugh at this.

“I’m far from perfect,” he said. “It’s probably I could say I’m the body, he’s the mind, maybe. He’s part of me. I’m part of him.”

Read the article here: http://www.usatoday.com/sports/olympics/vancouver/freestyle/2010-02-15-oly-bilodeau_N.htm

Biological Basis for Motivation Issues in ADHD?

Positron emission tomography (PET) scans were used to measure dopamine synaptic markers in adults with unmedicated ADHD and adults without ADHD. The study found that

A reduction in dopamine synaptic markers associated with symptoms of inattention was shown in the dopamine reward pathway of participants with ADHD.

(Volkow, et al., 2009).

This means that for people with ADHD, there may be a biological deficit in the way the brain gets motivated.

Study:

Volkow, N., et al. (2009). Evaluating Dopamine Reward Pathway in ADHD. JAMA, 302(10):1084-1091.

The abstract for the study can be found here: http://jama.ama-assn.org/cgi/content/abstract/302/10/1084