Learn how to identify a toxic relationship from the beginning.
Toxic relationships generally follow three stages: idealizing, devaluing, and discarding. Learn about each of these stages and the impact it has on you.
Idealizing: Love-bombing is a clear sign of the idealizing phase. You are told you are the best thing to happen to your partner, and they push for commitment early in the relationship. They may also use “grand gestures” such as lavish gifts or “surprise” vacations. (You are not consulted about your schedule before these surprise trips.) Many clients describe love-bombing as “I was swept off my feet.” Others describe being “placed on a pedestal.” While it feels good to be told how wonderful you are, consider the purpose of this person’s behavior. It is not to form an emotional connection with you; the goal is to get you ensnared so you are less likely to leave the relationship.
Idealizing: Love-bombing is a clear sign of the idealizing phase. You are told you are the best thing to happen to your partner, and they push for commitment early in the relationship. They may also use “grand gestures” such as lavish gifts or “surprise” vacations. (You are not consulted about your schedule before these surprise trips.) Many clients describe love-bombing as “I was swept off my feet.” Others describe being “placed on a pedestal.” While it feels good to be told how wonderful you are, consider the purpose of this person’s behavior. It is not to form an emotional connection with you; the goal is to get you ensnared so you are less likely to leave the relationship.
