Relationships
Talking Brains Podcast: a conversation about productive disagreement with Buster Benson. Learn why our communication styles get in the way of reaching a common goal, and discover how you can have more productive conversations. Buster Benson is an entrepreneur and a former product leader at Amazon, Twitter, Slack, and Patreon. He’s now CEO of 750words.com and [...]
You raised your child to be independent, but still, it can feel like such as loss when your child moves out on their own. Empty nest syndrome is a very real feeling of grief and loss, including feelings of loneliness and shifting of your sense of purpose. It most frequently happens when your children go off [...]
Life in the aftermath of a gaslighting or narcissistic relationship can be a struggle. You may have left the relationship with wounds to your heart and your self-esteem. If the gaslighter/narcissist left you for someone else, you may be feeling rage and betrayal. You may also be pretty mean to yourself, blaming yourself for things that [...]
A common tactic of gaslighters/narcissists is to falsely claim that they have others that verify their criticisms of you. Several clients have reported to me that their gaslighting/narcissistic partners would make comments like the following: "Everyone knows you're crazy." "My entire family thinks you're crazy." "Everyone is disappointed in you." "Your family knows what you're like. [...]
Talking Brains Podcast: a conversation about when a relationship is "bad enough" to leave and leaving the gaslighter I've had several people contact me and ask me, "What if my partner meets only a few characteristics of a gaslighter? Should I leave?" In this podcast, I detail 11 warning signs of a gaslighter, plus information to [...]
How to cope when your partner has a different sex drive than you. I have seen many couples in therapy for whom the number-one concern is differing sex drives. Interestingly, I have not seen a difference in gender regarding who has the higher sex drive and who has the lower one — so many factors come into play with libido. [...]
Gaslighters, people who try to control others through manipulation, will often accuse you of behaviors that they are engaged in themselves. This is a classic manipulation tactic. Read more to learn why this tactic works so well. In the article Gaslighting: Know It and Identify It to Protect Yourself, I described gaslighting as a series of manipulation tactics used to discredit you, keep you off-balance, [...]
After the posting on my article Gaslighting: Know It to Identify It and Protect Yourself, I’ve received emails asking whether people who are gaslighting know that they are doing it. As I mentioned in the article, gaslighting is a pattern of manipulation tactics used by abusers, narcissists, dictators, and cult leaders in order to gain control over a [...]
Gaslighting is a tactic in which a person or entity, in order to gain more power, makes a victim question their reality. It works much better than you may think. Anyone is susceptible to gaslighting, and it is a common technique of abusers, dictators, narcissists, and cult leaders. It is done slowly, so the victim doesn't [...]
Changes are the one constant in life. Just because we go through change doesn't mean we get used to it or fully embrace it, though. Here are 10 tips for coping with big changes in your life and coming out a better person for it. 1. Acknowledge things are changing. Sometimes we get so caught up in fighting [...]
