“Verdict: A fascinating and necessary study of rampant gaslighting and how to steer clear of being a victim.” ―Library Journal
“Sarkis clearly knows her material inside and out… this book will bring
gaslighting victims and survivors out of the darkness and into the light,
helping them heal” ―New York Journal of Books
Excerpt from “Gaslighting” by Stephanie Sarkis, PhD
Gaslighters will say that you, or people around them, are irrational and have things all wrong, when in reality they are avoiding having to explain themselves or take responsibility for their actions. For example, gaslighters will put their coworkers at risk by not following workplace safety guidelines. When they are confronted by superiors about these violations, they argue that no one really got hurt, and that they are being unfairly targeted. Or gaslighting parents who are told by their child’s teacher that it would be helpful if they would spend more time on reading at home,will automatically blame the other parent for the child’s issues with reading, or blame the teacher or the school for bringing it up.
Gaslighting is a technique of manipulating others to gain control.
In the book “Gaslighting”, a mental health expert sheds light on “gaslighting” -the manipulative technique used by sociopaths, narcissists, and others–offering practical strategies to cope and break free.
Gaslighting is often practiced by those with personality disorders (including Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder, and Borderline Personality Disorder). Whether it’s a spouse, parent, coworker, or friend, gaslighters use a series of manipulation and distraction tactics to distort the truth–from lying, controlling, withholding, triangulation, and more–making their victims question their own reality. Dr. Sarkis delves into the psychology behind the phenomenon, devoting chapters to specific scenarios, such as gaslighting in dating, in relationships, at work, and in families. With warning signs and examples of the destructive consequences along with practical tips and strategies, Gaslighting will help anyone trapped in a manipulative relationship to break free and heal from this toxic behavior.