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“It’s Okay to Not Be Okay Right Now” on Psychology Today

By |2020-03-27T12:40:42-04:00March 27th, 2020|Categories: Crisis, Health, Mental Health, Psychology, Psychology Today, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

Feeling overwhelmed has become our new normal. You are probably feeling extremely stressed, fatigued, and overwhelmed right now. The good news is that you are completely normal for feeling this way. The bad news is that this has become our new normal. How did we get here, and how do we protect ourselves emotionally? First, the lack of testing and accurate [...]

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“Watch Out For These Red Flags On a First Date” on Psychology Today

By |2020-02-20T15:45:19-05:00February 20th, 2020|Categories: Dating, Gaslighting, Narcissism, Psychology, Psychology Today, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

We all hope our first dates will go well, but know these red flags so you can get out quickly. If you’re back out in the dating world after a divorce, breakup, or death of your spouse, you are not alone. You may find that a lot has changed since you were single. For example, online [...]

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Talking Brains Episode: Navigating Friendships in Adulthood with Irene Kerzhnerman PhD

By |2020-01-21T19:47:18-05:00January 21st, 2020|Categories: Psychology, Relationships, Talking Brains|Tags: , , , |

Talking Brains Podcast: A conversation about the complexities of friendships as an adult with Irene Kerzhnerman PhD Making and keeping friends gets simultaneously harder and easier in adulthood. Learn how to determine if your friendships are healthy, how to set boundaries, and how you can have equal give and take in your friendships. Irene Kerzhnerman [...]

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Talking Brains Episode: The Art of Productive Disagreement with Buster Benson

By |2019-12-11T19:05:37-05:00December 11th, 2019|Categories: Conflict, Psychology, Relationships, Talking Brains|Tags: , |

Talking Brains Podcast: a conversation about productive disagreement with Buster Benson. Learn why our communication styles get in the way of reaching a common goal, and discover how you can have more productive conversations. Buster Benson is an entrepreneur and a former product leader at Amazon, Twitter, Slack, and Patreon. He’s now CEO of 750words.com and [...]

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“Facing Empty Nest Syndrome: How to cope so life feels full again” on Psychology Today

By |2019-08-19T20:12:31-04:00August 19th, 2019|Categories: Parenting, Psychology Today, Relationships|Tags: , , |

You raised your child to be independent, but still, it can feel like such as loss when your child moves out on their own. Empty nest syndrome is a very real feeling of grief and loss, including feelings of loneliness and shifting of your sense of purpose. It most frequently happens when your children go off [...]

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“Rebuilding After a Gaslighting/Narcissist Relationship” on Psychology Today

By |2019-07-16T18:37:09-04:00July 16th, 2019|Categories: Gaslighting, Psychology Today, Relationships|Tags: , , |

Life in the aftermath of a gaslighting or narcissistic relationship can be a struggle. You may have left the relationship with wounds to your heart and your self-esteem. If the gaslighter/narcissist left you for someone else, you may be feeling rage and betrayal. You may also be pretty mean to yourself, blaming yourself for things that [...]

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“Gaslighters Tell You Other People Think You’re Crazy Too” on Psychology Today

By |2019-07-03T15:24:15-04:00July 3rd, 2019|Categories: Gaslighting, Psychology Today, Relationships|Tags: , , |

A common tactic of gaslighters/narcissists is to falsely claim that they have others that verify their criticisms of you. Several clients have reported to me that their gaslighting/narcissistic partners would make comments like the following: "Everyone knows you're crazy." "My entire family thinks you're crazy." "Everyone is disappointed in you." "Your family knows what you're like. [...]

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Talking Brains Podcast Episode 14- When is a Relationship Bad Enough?: Leaving the Gaslighter

By |2019-06-03T16:26:15-04:00June 3rd, 2019|Categories: Dating, Gaslighting, Psychology Today, Relationships, Talking Brains|Tags: , , , |

Talking Brains Podcast: a conversation about when a relationship is "bad enough" to leave and leaving the gaslighter I've had several people contact me and ask me, "What if my partner meets only a few characteristics of a gaslighter? Should I leave?" In this podcast, I detail 11 warning signs of a gaslighter, plus information to [...]

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When Sex Drives Clash

By |2018-05-30T14:50:46-04:00May 30th, 2018|Categories: Relationships, Sex|Tags: |

How to cope when your partner has a different sex drive than you. I have seen many couples in therapy for whom the number-one concern is differing sex drives. Interestingly, I have not seen a difference in gender regarding who has the higher sex drive and who has the lower one — so many factors come into play with libido. [...]

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Why Gaslighters Accuse You of Gaslighting

By |2018-09-28T20:04:19-04:00February 14th, 2017|Categories: Conflict, Current Events, Gaslighting, Narcissism, Personality, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Gaslighters, people who try to control others through manipulation, will often accuse you of behaviors that they are engaged in themselves. This is a classic manipulation tactic. Read more to learn why this tactic works so well. In the article Gaslighting: Know It and Identify It to Protect Yourself, I described gaslighting as a series of manipulation tactics used to discredit you, keep you off-balance, [...]

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