Gina Pera is the author of the award-winning book Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.? She speaks internationally on adult ADHD and writes three blogs, including one devoted to relationships: You and Me – and Adult AD/HD.
What are some common issues couples experience when one partner has ADHD and the other does not?
First, I’ve never seen the issue as “ADHD vs. non-ADHD,” Why? Because, in 12 years of close observation, I’ve observed that dual-ADHD couples experience largely the same range of challenges as “mixed” couples — and often to a greater degree.
Logically speaking, we cannot separate “ADHD relationship issues” from “ADHD issues.” Single adults with ADHD face challenges in many areas of life, from education and employment to managing money and driving an automobile. When these adults enter a relationship, they bring their ADHD-related challenges with them.